First of all , f*ck them kids 🗣
I’m playing or am I ?
I’m so tired of people expecting me to have a child or getting mad at my answer on not becoming a mother . So here are some reasons !
1. It’s my choice !
Choice is exactly that – a conscious decision having weighed up the pros and cons, and going with whichever decision is most appropriate for the individual.
You probably heard that when women choose not to have children , we are called “selfish” . But how so ? Isn’t it more selfish to bring a child into this world that you can’t really provide for ? Think about it .
2. I want actual love , not just a baby !
Why is it always “why I don’t have kids ?” and never “where is the man I’m in love with?” Shouldn’t I be in love first then decide whether or not I want to create another human being ? I’m a hopeless romantic and I want that real love.
I also haven’t seen many good examples . I’ve seen more single mothers than actual families. “Baby mama” has become way too common. I refuse to be another stereotype.
3. I want my career first !
I have a long way to go in my career . I don’t want to have to resent my child or pause my path . Children are a blessing but definitely life – changers. Your whole life takes a different direction when you have children. Children become your number one priority.
4. It’s not what I see myself doing in five or ten years !
I used to think of having children but as I grew older , I realized it was just my societal outlook. Everyone’s lifestyle is different. I see myself traveling and enjoying my life .
5. I don’t want to raise a child in this world .
Everyday it’s something new . Whether it’s political or racist , there’s always something going on . Can you guarantee my baby boy will make it to his 21st birthday or will he be killed before then ? Can you guarantee my daughter won’t be sexually harassed ? I’ve dealt with many instances and I rather not have my child deal with any of it . Although I can’t prevent certain situations, I can do my best to be able to move to a safer location freely.
6. I like being alone .
I’m sorry but after sharing a house with 6 people growing up , I like being alone now. I don’t like being constantly bothered by people. When I want two or three days of quiet , how can I do that with a child ?
I also used to distance myself from friends when they become pregnant. It’s like they know my choice and still pressure me to have a child. Also the plans will flop or they want me to babysit and I’m just not into it. I baby sat enough in my childhood.
I love being alone , in my own peace .
7. I like to just go .
I’m the type to wake up and just book a flight or bus ticket. I don’t have to worry about anyone else but me. I can just get up and go. With a child , it’s harder to do . You have to factor in childcare and honestly I don’t have a support system . So who is my child staying with ?
8. I like my money .
Children are financial burdens . I like my money to go towards traveling and other things I like to do .
I honestly shouldn’t have to provide reasons on why I don’t want children . It’s my choice at the end of the day. I practice safe sex and never had a scare . If I do become pregnant, I know I’ll be a great mother . I would love my child unconditionally and provide a better life than what I have. If it happens , it happens .
To all the people out there , stop trying to wish children on people ! Not everyone wants children or need to have children to have a “life” or feel whole.
I used to think something was wrong with me because of all the reactions I received when I said I don’t want children. I don’t even get “baby fever”. I see a child and instantly think about diaper costs . But as the years went on , I realized there’s nothing wrong with me. There’s something wrong with society .
A child is a HUGE decision and it shouldn’t be taken lightly.
The Rich Auntie
Now I don’t “hate” children . I’m perfectly fine being the auntie . I will say congratulations and wish you the best of luck with children. But when auntie time is done , I’ll gladly return the babies in one piece hopefully.
We often hear the term “rich auntie” and I strive to be that auntie . But I ask is the auntie rich because she has money or because she has no children ?
Either way , I want to be her . I want to just spoil the children and whisk them away on adventures.
In conclusion, I’ll have children if I want to but until then , I’m childless and loving it .
Check out my YouTube video of me taking a pregnancy test HERE !
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Disclaimer : This post is not meant to offend or belittle anyone. This is just my blunt opinion on the topic . If you’re a mother I commend you for doing a job that is important.